Normal for Norfolk

It takes years to be accepted if you're new to Norfolk

Submitted by caroline rust on Thu, 09/10/2009 - 14:12

I've met dozens of newcomers to Norfolk  who appear to collectively  hold this view. So is there any truth in it, or is it an example of how easy it can be to view things from one perspective only.

Here's what I think:

Some people base their entire view or belief about a situation on a single piece of evidence. They then apply their thinking as a general rule. For example: I didn't hit it off with them, therefore I expect I'll find it hard to get on with anyone here.  

In my opinion when people are new to an area they are already outside of their natural comfort zone. This can make them highly sensitized to the comments and reactions of others around them.

When people are uncomfotable or unsure they tend to seek out ways to validate themselves. It helps them feel better and they can 'collect evidence' to prove their theory, and ultimately themsleves, right.  

My advice to them? Change your focus and fliters, and others around you will magically change too!

Norfolk people are just as generous, easy to get on with and good humoured as the rest of the population - the question is are they?   

caroline@workshopswork.co.uk

 

 

Comments

876 days 1 hour 4 min ago, Gnot Gnome wrote:

Well I have been here for 20 of my 46 years which makes me 43.5% Norfolk.

I think 25 years will make me a newcomer BUT I have always felt accepted here and I am pleased to be a public servant in a World Class County. We have a Fine City and some of the best scenery in the UK and the very best skyscapes anywhere.

873 days 1 hour 11 min ago, christineb wrote:

I've been here for 26 years and all three of my children were born in the county and couldn't be more proud to be from World Class Norfolk - they are just desperate that there is work for them to come back to when they graduate.

Being accepted anywhere takes a while, Norfolk is no different, and it may be galling if you trace your family tree back 100s of years to hear how the county should change from an 'incomer'.  However a grown up and mature county can only thrive and prosper if it takes the best of what is on offer, and that includes a fresh perspective from those of us who love it - where ever they originate from.

873 days 0 min ago, Lucy wrote:

Well I've been here less than 2 years, and I never really felt it took any time to be 'accepted'.

I think it says a lot about the place that I felt at home almost straight away (despite my glaringly northern accent!) and have never come across a single negative comment, reaction or cold shoulder.

Definately one of the most welcoming places I've been to, and one I'm happy to call home - I forget I'm not 'a local' usually.

 

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